In a recent reading with a beloved client, we explored the energy of sugar coating, AKA lying.
She experienced a pattern for years with a dear friend where she knew she was not being told the full truth about why her friend couldn’t get together for the planned trips, the dinner invites, or anything that would deepen their relationship.
She would open conversations, ask honest questions, and pave the path to nurture their relationship, but she was always held at arm’s length.
She was told excuses as to why plans needed to be canceled or why they couldn’t do this or that. She knew deep down her friend was not being fully honest and started internalizing this pattern as something being wrong with her. The stories our minds can create can be much worse and more painful than the actual reality.
Instead of owning her amazing-ness and her vibrant uniqueness, she was experiencing invalidation and shame.
When I looked at the energy, I saw her friend was not wanting to hurt her but just the opposite. She wasn’t sharing her full truth of all the complex pieces thinking that would protect her.
We moved the energy, closed the crazy-making loop, and centered her back within herself to shift the shame and own her personal power.
We cleared the pictures, and energy lit up (that was very old) around belonging, the pain of abandonment, and longing for connection that also impacted other areas of her life.
This created the space so she could own her sovereignty, stop the crazy-making, call her energy back to herself, and focus her attention on what she desired.
So often, that is the reason we do not divulge full truths. But most know intuitively that there is more to it, and it is actually more harmful not to be fully honest.
One of the cruelest things an intuitive, energetically sensitive person can experience is being lied to or withheld information.
It is crazy-making.
There is no way forward to heal and move on when the truth isn't revealed. It creates an energetic loop of self-doubt, questioning, and invalidation.
A healer can imagine change and a way forward. But this can only be done with truth.
Hidden energy stays stuck and unable to move. It is stuck between the resistance of the hidden piece being revealed and the effort to keep it hidden.
It’s like a missing puzzle piece not allowing the full picture to be revealed therefore, your energy is stuck in trying to find the missing piece, the hidden information, and you can lose yourself in the game.
Maybe you experience untruths as a feeling in your body, or you notice you just can’t stop thinking or wondering about it.
It just doesn’t seem complete. It doesn’t click.
Then the invalidation loop kicks in, and you wonder what is wrong with you. Why can’t you move on or accept what is being presented? It can be consuming and confusing.
This is because you know there is more to it on an energetic level.
The kinder and more loving way is to show all the puzzle pieces so that each person knows the truth and can be sovereign in their own space to decide how to respond to it.
This is where healing, love, and movement of energy can set in. It moves you towards your truth.
Withholding information or lying is sometimes done out of love or wanting to protect someone. But really, on an energetic level, it is felt and creates energy at the center, hindering healing, peace, and connection for all.